🌱 From Self-Worth 1.0 to 2.0 (use this upgrade)

This week, I feel as if my personal operating system (and how I see/treat myself) got a huge upgrade.

Here’s your 3 insights in 3 minutes for you to feel the same.

💙 No Cherished Outcomes

Elizabeth Gilbert (author of Eat Pray Love among others) told Tim Ferriss she tries to live life with “no cherished outcomes.”

It means not clinging to specific results…something I started practicing and am already feeling the benefits.

Elizabeth is so committed to this, that she’s cut family holidays from her life because of the baked-in expectations to be perfect. 

Extreme? Maybe. I respect the boundary though. 

But what struck me was the unconditional love she gives herself through decades of practicing it. 

Historically, my personal self-love has come WITH conditions (if I’m productive, then I can relax...maybe).

So this unconditional love thing is new for me. But I’m already feeling the benefits and flow from it. 

Here’s how (so you can too).

🧠 Intro to IFS

I’d heard of Internal Family Systems (IFS), but never really understood it. Now I can’t unsee it. 

Here’s how it works.

Think of your mind as a team of parts (not just one voice). 

• Managers: prevent problems (perfectionist, planner)

• Firefighters: stop pain fast (numb out, scroll, snacks)

• Exiles: carry old hurt (the “not enough” ache)

• The overall Self: (calm, curious, compassionate) meant to lead

One of my favorite AI uses is customizing complex ideas to make it easier, more relevant, and more fun for me to learn. (Often this includes humor.)

Then it offered to make a “Mitchell Edition IFS chart” and of course I said sure!

So the whole idea is that we all have multiple parts. The key is noticing which one is steering and handing the wheel back to Self.

That shift — letting the calm, grounded self lead — sets up the biggest upgrade of all…

🚀 Self-Worth 1.0 → 2.0

If you’re like me, you might be thinking: “Yeah, but that pressure is my edge. It’s what got me here!”

True. But it’s more of a turbo boost. Great for short bursts, terrible as a daily fuel source. 

Self-Worth 1.0 is running on borrowed gas.
Self-Worth 2.0 is switching to renewable energy.

Here’s the upgrade:

Self-Worth 1.0: Achievement → Self-worth
“If I do enough, then I’ll be enough” (Pressure-driven performance)

Self-Worth 2.0: Self-worth → Achievement
“Because I’m enough, I can act with clarity and enthusiasm (Value-driven progress)

Self-Worth 2.0 isn’t about doing less.
It’s about going after big things from a place of energy and enthusiasm instead of fear and self-criticism.

You’re still ambitious, but now you can enjoy the ride and keep going without burning out.

When worth comes first, achievement stops being a survival need and starts being an expression of who you are. That shift means:

• More energy day-to-day

• More courage to take big, aligned swings

• More joy in the process itself

In other words: Do the work because you’re worthy, not to prove you are.

Here’s a bonus prompt to see your self-love and self-worth mirrored back to you. Clearly I’m still learning this right now too.

Salud,
Mitchell