๐ŸŒฑ How a LinkedIn comment turned into a real friendship

Making friends online. Going first. Avoidance.

Hereโ€™s your 3 insights in 3 minutes

๐Ÿ‘‹ New LinkedIn Homie 

My friendship with Morgan Johnson started the most modern way possible:

A comment thread on LinkedIn.
Then a DM.
Then a Zoom call.

We originally connected over a shared obsession with the personal annual review process. (I wrote about that here.)

But once we started talking, the conversation went somewhere else fast. 

We ended up talking about discomfort. 

Not in the โ€œmotivation quoteโ€ way.
In a real way.

Morgan moved to NYC from Wales and has worked at hedge funds and startups.

Quickly into our Zoom call, he shared a story that stuck with me... and I appreciated how quickly he opened up. (also: he has A+ Welsh accent)

His prior company went bankrupt.

So badly that Harvard wrote a case study on the failure.

For a long time, he wanted nothing to do with it. 

Then he got invited to speak at Harvard ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต the failure.
He almost didnโ€™t go.
But he decided to lean into it.

That single decision became a lead domino.

It started with him posting about it on LinkedIn.
Which led to a VC friend reaching out.
Which led to a keynote and a facilitated session with 120+ CEOs.

All because he walked straight toward the thing he wanted to avoid.

In the words of Yo Gotti, โ€œit goes down in the DMโ€

๐Ÿง  Three Takeaways

After the call, I had 3 big takeaways.

๐Ÿญ) ๐—–๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐˜‚๐—ฝ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฝ.
When you consistently share ideas, you skip the small talk. Youโ€™ve already โ€œmet.โ€

๐Ÿฎ) ๐—š๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ.
Commenting, DMโ€™ing, and suggesting a Zoom call lands differently when youโ€™ve already shared how you think.

๐Ÿฏ) ๐—œ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐˜€๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜†๐—บ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ. ๐—˜๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐˜€.
AI can summarize anything. Whatโ€™s rare is lived experience and the willingness to share what actually mattered.

๐Ÿค” Avoidance

โ€œMost people spend their lives avoiding the very things that would set them free.โ€

โ€” David Foster Wallace

Morgan stopped avoiding the thing he didnโ€™t want to touch.
And it changed the entire trajectory of his work.

I noticed something similar when I stopped living in contrast.

Full-time job on one side. Side projects on the other. Always half-stepping.

Different examples of the same pattern. 

Salud,
Mitchell

Ps. What are you avoiding? (hit reply and let me know)