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The 9pm rule. Behavioral activation. Who youāre being.
Hereās your 3 insights in 3 minutes.
āļø Morning Routine
Iāve tried almost every morning routine.
5am wakeups. Cold plunges. Nootropics. Sunlight timing.
The one thing that consistently works?
Shutting my laptop by 9pm.
Thatās it.
I set my Mac to automatically shut down every night at 9:00pm. (Instructions below.)
A hard stop.
No willpower. No āone more thing.ā
The decision is made for me.
When I did this a few years ago, my days changed.
Earlier sleep is the lead domino.
7am workouts feel easy. My best early hours are preserved for the most important work. The day feels won before noon.
The best morning routine starts the night before.
Most people try to upgrade their motivation.
I prefer upgrading the environment.
High performance is built on constraints, not willpower.
Whatās one constraint that would completely upgrade your next 30 days?

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Shutdown instructions (Mac):
Copy this for 9pm:
sudo pmset repeat shutdown MTWRFSU 21:00:00To check it:
pmset -g schedš§ Live First. Think Later.
Richard Rohr has a line I keep coming back to:
āWe do not think ourselves into new ways of living, we live ourselves into new ways of thinking.ā
Psychologists call this behavioral activation.
Action creates evidence.
Evidence reshapes belief.
Belief shapes identity.
We like to think clarity comes first.
āIf I just had more clarity, Iād move.ā
But clarity shows up after movement.
You donāt become confident and then act.
You act. Then confidence catches up.
You donāt think your way into discipline.
You keep one small promise to yourself. Then another.
Most of us are over-indexing on thinking. (yes, talking to myself here too.)
More research, more planning, more optimizingā¦
We tell ourselves weāre avoiding wasted time.
Weāre really just avoiding uncertainty. Or even scarier, judgement from others!
And in the process, we waste far more time thinking than we would taking one step.
Forget the 3 year plan.
Let clarity show up later.
š Who Are You Being?
We say weāre stuck because we donāt know the steps.
Thatās rarely the problem.
Usually, we think the answer is getting clearer on what we want.
Marc Andreessen puts it this way:

But itās not just about knowing what you want.
What you want is the direction.
Who youāre being is the vehicle.
Choose the vehicle first.
Right now, Iām choosing to be: loving, courageous, and fully alive. (Note: yes, these are just words, but Iāve assigned them meaning and therefore feel them.)
From that place, the next move is obvious.
Send the text.
Make the call.
Ship the thing.
Even if itās not perfect. In fact, especially if itās not perfect.
Thatās the vehicle that makes real progress.
Salud,
Mitchell
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