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🌱 The hidden danger of friendships
Learn: Danger of friendships, How to make intros, Life games
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⚠️ Danger of Friendships
I read something recently that’s been stuck in my head all week. (H/T @Ellie Rome)
Everyone knows the saying, “You’re the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with...”
But here’s WHY it’s so much more than that.
A study from New England Journal of Medicine showed the spread of obesity through social networks. Data proves that if your friend becomes obese, then YOU are 45% more likely to gain weight over the next four years.
But here’s where it gets crazier. Even if a friend of your friend gains weight, YOU are still 20% more likely to gain weight. Further, if a friend of a friend of your friend is obese, you are 10% more likely to gain weight.
Let that sink in for a second.
The data is compelling, but what do we do with it?
Use a 3-step process to avoid traps by adjusting your AIM (actions, interests, magnets).
Check my essay and AIM Flywheel here.
🤝 Make Intros
Making genuine, helpful introductions is low effort and high impact. And I LOVE it.
One sentence I find myself using often is “also you both are just amazing humans.”
Simple format:
“@person 1 is [quick background]
@person 2 is [quick background]
So thought [reason you’re connecting them].
Also, you both are just amazing humans and will enjoy knowing each other.”
Here is an example from last week:
There’s no expectation for anything in return. The connector just has an eye for others' interests and makes intros when possible.
Can you make one intro this week?
🤔 Life Games
“Life games reflect life aims. And the games men choose to play indicate not only their type, but also their level of inner development” - Robert S. de Ropp
Abrazos,
Mitchell
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