🌱 On “fulfillment” & 2025

Now page. Grief. 2025.

Author

Mitchell Cohen
December 22, 2024

Here are your 3-minute insights to think deeper, take action, and make connections with yourself and others.

đź“ŤNow Page

As I’ve mentioned before, everyone should have a /now page. 

If for no other reason, it forces you to take quick inventory of your top priorities "now."

Update it once a quarter (or so), as a quick personal check-in. 

You can also redirect your calendar link to this page, so after someone books time, they get to know you better before hopping on the Zoom. 

I've had mine set up for 2+ years now and only hear positive feedback. 

Which means people love the additional ways to connect before Zoom calls... OR they hate it and are afraid to tell me. 

But something tells me it's the former. :)

Here’s mine: 

What are you up to now?

❤️‍🩹 Grief

An "old guy" wrote this in a Grief Support forum years ago — which went viral after it deeply touched people.

I've never seen anyone illustrate emotion so vividly.

You feel the pain through his words.

The "grief comes in waves" analogy is perfect.

I first read it a few years ago, and it's always stuck with me.

If you or someone you know is grieving, it may be helpful to remember that "scars are a testament to life."

Source: Grief Support subreddit (highlights are mine)

🤔 2025 Fulfilment 

I do this funny thing that makes no sense:

I try to DO more things so I can finally BE the person I want to be. It’s my way of proving to myself that I’m good enough, worthy enough, or something enough.

This likely stems from childhood—maybe being cut from the basketball team and/or being shorter than average. Somewhere along the line, I internalized the idea that I had to earn my place. That I had to prove my worth by doing more. 

But here’s what I’m learning:

I can be full right now. Without having to do more. 

And yet, even as I write that, I can’t help but notice. The way I say it reveals the deeper truth.

I said I can be fulfilled. Not that I am. 

That little word—can—keeps it hypothetical rather than present.  

A helpful reminder that step one is awareness. I see the pattern. 

So, in 2025, I’m not striving to do more. 

I’m choosing to be more. 

I’m just being. 

Of course, that doesn’t mean the “doing” part of me disappears. He’s still there, busy working and creating.

But the “being” part of me likes to play.

So, really, I’m just reducing my own judgment on any part of me. Letting “doing” and “being” coexist without one needing to justify the other. It’s hearing my inner voice whisper, “You should do more,” and choosing my response at any given moment. That’s my truth.

What’s yours?

Salud,
Mitchell